Worse, accusing me of being racist because they probably don't know the reference, so magically assume it's me being racist.

ad-hominem, responding to tone, contradiction without counterpoint... they're the bread and butter of those sticking their fingers in their ears going "la-la-la-la" like a cut-rate Vancome lady.

Well shyah, ya know what? Uh-uh.

"It's not what you said but how you said it" is ALWAYS the province of enablers and appeasers. Those who would prefer the scam artists, snake oil peddlers, and other dirtbags in our society can fee free to run amok, so long as nobody complains about it.

Ask 1930's Europe how well appeasement works.